"Mom! I KNOW!", she said, standing, confident and exasperated, with hands on her hips.
A child who is now annoyed with her mother.
Rightly so, I must admit. But in all fairness, I'm just being the same mom doing what I always do. When did she change? When did she not need me to suggest ways to convey her wishes or encouragement to take part in certain endeavors?
It's been so gradual I haven't even noticed. She has always had freedom and choice but still always wanted my input or needed my advice.
I have noticed her increased confidence. I know she values herself and her time immensely. I know she is very choosy about what she does and who she spends her time with. And I guess with all of this comes that confidence to be more independent and handle life herself. A stepping stone of life, of freedom.
She is not antagonistic, she is not terrible, she is not rebellious nor self-centered or any other negative word that people use to describe a teen.
She is just growing up. She is becoming independent. She is feeling confident enough to handle what comes her way herself. And that IS what we want for our children.
So now it is ME who has to change. I need to back up, breathe, and wait and see IF she needs a suggestion or guidance from me, for I am always here for her.
I suppose I could feel a bit sad that she doesn't need me like she used to, but why would I, when I know she is blossoming into a confident, self-assured young woman who believes in herself and trusts her own judgement.
As we continue our journey in life, we are emerging from the child and parent partnership to becoming new partners, woman to woman and friend to friend.
And how glorious that each stage in life has gifts for us to enjoy and savor . . . just like each season in nature does.
happy day! happy life!